Phone calls... text messages... these things were a big part of your daily life while you and your girlfriend were dating. But what if she's still calling and texting you after the breakup? And what if she was the one who initiated the breakup in the first place?
Does this mean your ex still loves you? Does she want you back? Or is she really just texting you to say hello, or calling you to see what's up in a friendly sort of way?
Well, in all honesty you'd be pretty naive to think all this ex girlfriend contact means nothing. A girl who broke up with you totally wouldn't want anything to do with you afterward. The fact that she's still keeping in touch, even after breaking up, means something pretty important.
Understand one thing: a girl dumps you for very specific reasons. Most of the time, these reasons include a desire to move on in her life without you. Yet here, your ex is still trying to keep the lines of communication open. By text-messaging, emailing, or calling you on the phone, your ex girlfriend is actually saying "Don't go away just yet".
Is she ready to get back together right now, at this very moment? Probably not. But simultaneously, she's also not ready to lose you. Your ex would much rather you stick around for a while, even through something as tenuous as texting and emailing, while she decides if she really wants the breakup to 'stick'.
Another approach she might take? The "let's be friends" option. This happens when your girlfriend breaks up with you but pretends like she'd still like to stay friends with you. And I use the word 'pretend' intentionally here, because the last thing your girlfriend really wants or needs is an ex boyfriend for a friend. What she really desires? A crutch to lean on. A safety net, just in case she wants you back.
If your ex girlfriend still calls and texts you, it's because she's looking to keep you available to her. She might ultimately want to undo or reverse the breakup, but until that moment comes, she wants to know you're still there for her.
So what do you do? What's the best move when your ex still contacts you after breaking things off?
If you want to get her back, your best move is to actually NOT be there for her. The most effective way to get your girlfriend back is to actually withdraw from her life - in totality - so that your ex really starts to miss you.
There are lots of signs and signals given off when your ex girlfriend wants you back. Texting and emailing you is only one of them. Learn the other signs that she might be reconsidering the breakup, so that you can be fully prepared as to what to do next.